Motivation, Random Thoughts

Maximizing Success Through Relationships

We often have many resources right in front of us to help us get to where we want to go in life but don’t use them. Often, those resources are people we know, such as family members, friends, or acquaintances.

The problem is that we often don’t ask for their help, or they aren’t willing to offer it. Sometimes it may be a little bit of both.

Think of those you know who have found success in a particular area of their life. Have you ever asked them for advice? Have you ever sought their mentorship or tried to tap into their knowledge?

We all possess unique advantages that we should utilize to get ahead in life, and many times, those advantages come from the people we know. Let’s make use of and learn from them…if they are willing to help.

Motivation

Power Up: Achieve Success

When your “why” gets stronger, the “how” gets easier.

A lot of times, the thing between us and our goals and dreams is ourselves. We often have self-limiting beliefs and give every reason why we can’t do something. We think of every obstacle that might come along the way.

Don’t forget to think of your “whys” either. Think about who you’re doing it for. Think about all the positive outcomes that will come if you bunker down, be resilient, and follow through with your goals, dreams, and ideas. That will make things easier.

It’s all about ability and attitude.

They say the future isn’t ahead of you; it’s within you. You already have the abilities to achieve what you want. You have the skills and the gifts. Make sure your attitude is right as well.

Make sure you believe in yourself. Make sure you’re thinking of all the positive things that can happen, as opposed to the negative. Think of your “why” and let that fuel you. Like the saying goes, it never gets easier; you just get better.

Motivation, Random Thoughts

Transit Triumph: Embracing Humility

There was a long span growing up when my family didn’t have a car. As early as 6th grade, I had to catch the city bus to school. My mom was a nurse and had to take the city bus to work every day.

It was something that used to embarrass me. I didn’t want anyone to see me waiting at the bus stop. However, my mom would catch the bus as if it was nothing. Then, I would be embarrassed again that my mom had to take the bus too.

As I got older, I realized that was just my ego talking. There’s nothing wrong with public transportation. Even being able to catch the city bus is a blessing.

When I got to college, I never got a car. I took the bus to school every day for 4 years. There were times when I could have used my Pell Grant money to buy a car, but I never did. I was the star player on the football team, but still used public transportation. Some of my teammates thought I was crazy. I did it to stay humble and hungry. I had to keep my ego in check.

Many times, it’s our own ego that holds us back from what needs to be done or from blessings and opportunities. Even now, when I’m reluctant to do something, I check to make sure it’s not my ego talking. Many times, it is.

Don’t let your ego come between you and what you’re obligated to do or what’s necessary to do. Once we put our egos aside, things become more objective and easier to accomplish.

Motivation, Random Thoughts

Embrace Your Truth: Empowering Growth

We are all who we are for reasons. We are shaped by a combination of things that have happened to us and choices we have made.

Sometimes, we are even unconsciously a certain way and don’t even realize it. It’s important to learn about yourself, though. Find out why you are a certain way. Why do you have the insecurities that you have? Why do you treat relationships a certain way? What makes you upset, etc.?

Reflect on your life and embrace all those things that have shaped who you are now. Listen to others who may see things in you that you may not see. Embrace your past and own it. Own your truth.

We all have testimonies. Remember, embracing your past and being true to yourself can empower you to make progress in your life and positively impact others.

Faith

Divine Communication: Mastering Listening

I believe that God speaks to all of us if we truly listen.

He can use people as vessels or those gut feelings we experience, or even the synchronicities that occur in our lives. He may also speak to us through learning from our own mistakes and the mistakes of others.

Regardless of the method, God communicates with us. So, if there are times when we feel the opposite, perhaps we aren’t listening. Maybe we need a comprehension skill, similar to what we require for reading. Just like reading comprehension, listening to God is a skill we can develop.

No matter what you believe God is saying to you, ensure that you listen and take appropriate action. Blessings await.

Motivation, Sports

Unlocking the Power of Dreams: Dreaming Bigger and Pursuing Multiple Goals

No matter what your biggest dream is, dream even bigger. In fact, have multiple big dreams.

One of my most significant dreams and goals was to play sports professionally, whether it was football, basketball, or track. And that dream did come true. And honestly, it wasn’t difficult. I simply had to make the choices necessary to reach my desired destination. This makes me wonder what I could achieve if I dream even bigger.

Sometimes, I think that when I was striving to achieve my goal of playing a professional sport, I had tunnel vision to a fault. And honestly, it wasn’t entirely my fault. When you have a natural talent for something, people often try to pigeonhole you. They may have good intentions, but their support is often limited to what they think is best for you. For me, and many athletes, that was football.

When you excel at football, society makes life easier for you. It becomes easier to progress in school, gain acceptance into college, and even face consequences for mistakes. They confine you within this artificial world. That’s why many players struggle with identity issues when they’re done playing football and have no idea what to do in life afterwards.

I never had that problem. Football was always just a sport I loved to play, nothing more, nothing less. I didn’t invest my entire identity in it, and it wasn’t the foundation of my life. God was and still is. That’s why I didn’t have a mental challenge transitioning to other things after football.

I had God before football, during, and after. I’m grateful that I attended Sunday school and Wednesday Bible study during my childhood. It helped shape me.

There are numerous other dreams I had (and still have) in life that were put aside for football. I wish I had pursued them at an earlier age. But, as I mentioned, I was often confined to a box, focused solely on sports.

Some kids, like myself, manage to break free from that box and find their own path. I always had wisdom and academic intelligence. However, some children are the opposite. They get trapped in that box and are simply pushed along, often lacking other qualities such as academic intelligence or the right morals and values. So, once football or whichever dream they were pursuing is over, they feel lost. They don’t have the tools to pursue their other dreams and goals. Even worse, they were never shown that they could have other dreams and goals.

Therefore, I ask you, what is one dream or goal that you have always had but have been hesitant to pursue? What steps can you take today to move closer to realizing that dream or goal?

Motivation, Random Thoughts

Inspiring Self-Improvement

Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is to simply become the best version of yourself.

Your words and advice may not inspire them, and your willingness to help may not have an impact either. However, if they can witness your transformation into something better, they might be motivated to do the same.

An interaction with me is not the same as it was 10 years ago. I might have treated you with less respect back then, and our discussions might have been different. However, now I strive to treat you with more respect and engage in different topics. I have also developed new and improved characteristics that may inevitably rub off on you.

Lately, I refrain from “casting my pearls.” I let the way I live my life carry the weight of my words. I don’t even try to market or ask others to read my blog posts; I simply post and go. If it’s meant for you to read it, you will. I just hope you can take something positive away from it. Even if you don’t, that’s fine. At the very least, you get to witness me consistently doing something I enjoy.

Motivation, Sports

Tackling Challenges, Embracing Growth

The first NFL team I signed with was the Buffalo Bills.

I joined the team in the middle of fall camp. After signing, I went straight to offensive meetings. I remember we were installing another part of the offensive playbook. I had no idea what was going on, so I just sat there, pretending as if I did.

The running back saw me over there looking confused and leaned over, saying, “This probably looks like Greek to you right now. No worries, we’ll learn it.” Less than two weeks later, I was the starting running back for our third preseason game, knowing all the installed plays from the playbook.

There may be times in life where things seem challenging to learn or grasp at first, but with practice and repetition, you can learn anything. Just from my experience learning many football playbooks, I have gained the confidence and skill to learn just about anything. That’s how I was able to teach myself Spanish, along with many other things I’ve learned over the years.

I don’t get discouraged at the beginning when I don’t know much; I embrace the process and practice daily. I know that eventually, I will master whatever it is that I’m trying to master, the same way I did with the 14 playbooks I learned in an 8-year span.

So if you have a skill, subject, or concept that you’re having a hard time grasping, give it time and effort, and you’ll get there. Start with the end in mind and know that anything is possible.

Motivation, Sports

Unleashing Intangible Greatness: Unlocking Success

When we think about what makes a great football player or basketball player, or any sport for that matter, we often associate greatness with physical ability and skill. Some parents even spend hours and years training their children to excel in a particular sport.

However, there are individuals who may be considered great at their sport without the accomplishments or accolades to back it up. As Jadakiss questioned in his song “Why,” “Why is a brother up north better than Jordan that ain’t get that break?” The truth is, there are numerous valuable skills that athletes need to possess to truly excel in their respective sports. Unfortunately, these intangible qualities often get overlooked.

Character, coachability, accountability, self-respect, respect for others, time management, anger management, academic intelligence, and more are all essential traits that are just as, if not more, valuable than physical abilities.

Merely excelling in dribbling, shooting, and passing doesn’t automatically make someone NBA caliber. This principle applies not only to sports but also to life in general. Regardless of what you do, ensure that you possess all the characteristics necessary to be great at it. Embrace all the intangible qualities, not just the superficial ones.

If you believe you are better than a player who gets more playing time or smarter than your employer, take a moment to reflect. Consider why and how that person ended up in the position they are in. Perhaps they possess certain intangible qualities that you have overlooked but could greatly benefit from acquiring.

Remember, true greatness extends beyond physical abilities. It encompasses a wide range of intangible qualities. By nurturing and developing these traits, you can enhance your overall performance and reach new heights in whatever you pursue.

Random Thoughts

Morning Motivation: Baby Love

There’s a quote that says, “Find something you love so much that you don’t need an alarm clock to wake up in the morning.”

For me, that’s my baby daughter. I don’t even need an alarm clock anymore because my daughter will find a way to wake me up.

It could be through crying or babbling. Either way, I know she’ll wake me up nice and early. I love that girl! LOL.