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Expectations and Adaptability

February 7, 2024 bhillay

Shakespeare once said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.” No expectations, no disappointments.

It’s much more precarious to have expectations for things that are out of your control. Because of that, I try not to. I always have a positive, optimistic look on things, but try not to expect things from people or certain situations. Much of our disappointment and pain stem from the difference between our expectations and reality. When they don’t align, it can lead to disappointment or even emotional pain.

I have expectations for myself because I’m the one making the moves, so I have more control over things, but there are still many things out of my control when expecting things for myself.

So really, all I can do is always focus on the next right move. Even when things don’t go as expected, I can still make the right adjustments and decisions for what’s next to come.

Random Thoughts

Grow Together Daily

February 6, 2024 bhillay

Having a baby is a constant reminder to me to continue to learn and grow. It’s a reminder to never give up, have an open mind, and be willing to learn and grow.

My daughter learns new things every day. She gets closer to her developmental milestones every day as well. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander. If I expect all of these things from my daughter, I should also expect them for myself.

There’s always something new to learn, there’s always room for improvement. I have to lead by example and make sure I know enough to be able to teach.

So if there’s ever something that you want someone to do or suggest that they do for their benefit, make sure you are practicing what you preach. It helps you and it will be the catalyst to positively influence them as well.

Random Thoughts

Focusing Amid Life’s Distractions

February 5, 2024 bhillay

I’ve been meditating every morning for over a week now. It’s something relaxing that I like to do at the beginning of every morning. I’m still new to it, so I’m still working on trying to focus while meditating.

I still find my thoughts veering off to something random. I might start thinking about my day, what I’m going to eat for the day, random thoughts, my blog topic for the day, anything. Pretty much just a lot of distractions.

I like meditating because I think it can often foreshadow your life. If I can have all these distractions while meditating that hinder me from properly meditating, imagine the distractions I have in real life and how they are stopping me from achieving certain things in life.

We must try to get rid of all distractions in life. They come in different shapes and forms too. Your own thoughts can be a distraction, the people you hang out with, your actions, anything that deters you from your objectives in life.

So whether it’s meditating or real life, it’s key to focus on the task at hand and not let those counterproductive distractions get in the way of things.

Motivation, Random Thoughts

Unstoppable Persistence

February 4, 2024 bhillay

Persistence doesn’t know day or night.

It doesn’t care about moods or feelings.

It doesn’t care about trials and tribulations; it just keeps going no matter what.

Newton said that objects in motion stay in motion unless a force is applied. Not all forces are the same, though; an object can stay in motion if the force that is applied is not strong enough to stop the object.

When the object that you obtain is persistence, there shouldn’t be many forces that can stop you. Keep going.

Random Thoughts

Wish Me Luck

February 3, 2024 bhillay

Three of the best words you can tell someone are “wish me luck.”

When someone says that, they are usually doing something courageous, taking a chance on something, or pursuing a dream. They are about to embark on something so grand that it gets their nerves going.

Many times, it’s good to feel nervous. I enjoy that sensation; it’s akin to the feeling you get when you gamble. I always experienced a sense of nervousness before every football game I played and every track race I ran. It was never a nervousness stemming from being unprepared or scared; instead, it was a nervousness born from feeling prepared, confident, and excited. The success that follows such nervousness feels like winning at gambling.

So, here’s to more “wish me lucks” for sure.

Motivation

Urgency with Control

February 2, 2024 bhillay

We should all have a sense of urgency in life. After all, we aren’t here forever.

Procrastination can often be our worst enemy. We might overanalyze things and be too slow to act. That’s not good. We can also move too fast, which can cause problems.

Although we don’t want to be slow in life, it’s good to be controlled at times. A controlled approach may involve slowing down a process to ensure precision, accuracy, or safety. There are scenarios where being deliberate and methodical (controlled) can result in a slower pace of action.

Don’t confuse that for counterproductive slowness, though. It’s about doing things as fast and urgently as you can, in a controlled way.

Random Thoughts

Embracing Yearly Progress

February 1, 2024 bhillay

Today is February 1st, meaning the year is already over 8% finished. Depending on what you’ve done already, that 8% can seem like a lot of time or not that much time.

For me, it’s kind of both. The 8% is a reminder to me of how fast things move. It also encourages me because I know I still have almost 92% of the year left to do everything I set out to do.

If I do things in small percentage increments, when the year is 100% over, I’ll be satisfied.

Motivation

Visualizing Success

January 31, 2024 bhillay

They say that seeing is believing. That’s something that I definitely agree with.

I have done many things in my life and plan to do many more, just based on seeing others succeed before me and realizing that it’s possible.

Some people can’t believe it until they see results, though. Those are the types who might not want to start a new endeavor with you until they see results, and then they’ll try to join along. By that time, it’s too late.

No matter what it is, we must start with the end in mind. If there’s no one or nothing to model after, that’s fine. Visualize your future self achieving whatever it is you want, and let that be your belief and motivation.

I’ve won a lot of first-place ribbons running track, and every race that I took first place in, I had already visualized myself winning days before. The same goes for life. Once I see and believe, my actions start to follow, leading to whatever I set out to do.