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  • Thriving Through Personal Reflection

    You should take everything personally. It’s just a matter of how you take things personally.

    There’s the type that takes everything personally, as in they tend to interpret or perceive things as personal attacks or criticisms, even when they may not be intended that way. Then there are those who take things personally with the intention of reflecting on what’s being said and using it as an opportunity for personal growth. It indicates a high level of self-awareness and a willingness to learn from feedback. We should all aim to be the latter.

    Regardless of the situation, you should take things personally and strive to improve. That’s what makes great athletes great. They don’t mind coaching; they are trying to improve. The less skilled athletes might get defensive or feel attacked.

    The same can be true for relationships, jobs, or even school. Don’t be too quick to take things personally in a negative way and get defensive or attack others because you feel attacked.

    Have that natural desire to reflect and improve. That’s where growth, success, and happiness lie.

  • Swift Year’s Reflection

    It’s that time of year when everyone starts saying, “This year went by so fast.”

    So I guess we can all agree that the year goes by quickly. Some people do a lot throughout the year and accomplish much, making it feel like the year went by fast. Then there are those who don’t do much at all and didn’t accomplish as much as they planned, which makes the year feel like it went by fast.

    If you’re someone who is active, sets goals, and achieves them, you should be optimistic about a fast year. You know what you can achieve, and you’re excited to get there.

    If you’re someone who doesn’t do much at all, a fast year can be discouraging because it reminds you of how little you accomplished in the year.

    Ultimately, the best thing about the year going by fast, whether you did a lot or not, is that there’s another year that follows. It’s a fresh start and a chance to conquer the year however you please.

  • Discovering Self Through Learning

    The more you learn, the more you’ll get to know yourself.

    There are a lot of unanswered questions we have about ourselves, and sometimes it simply comes down to a lack of knowledge.

    Learning about health and nutrition can teach you what your specific body needs. Learning about leadership styles can help you understand what type of leader you are. Learning about psychology can help you understand your own psyche and so on.

    Sometimes, I learn something new without intending to learn about myself, but I still gain insights into my own being.

    In my 8th-grade science class at a parochial school, we learned that the purpose of science was to better understand God by better understanding God’s creations. The same principle applies to ourselves.

  • Rising Above Doubt

    Try not to focus on those who doubt you, hate on you, or don’t support you. Why waste your energy on that?

    Appreciate those who believe in you and support you. Use that positive energy as a catalyst for your success.

    When starting a new endeavor, it’s easy to think about those who aren’t supporting you or who you thought would support you but aren’t. You’re thinking about the wrong things.

    It’s about giving your all and putting it out there for the world. The right people will receive it and support you. Not everything is for everyone.

    Someone not supporting what you have going on doesn’t always mean they don’t support you in general; it may not be their cup of tea.

    One genuine supporter is better than 100 people you forced to support you. Believe in yourself first and put in the work. The support will naturally come eventually.

  • Unseen Path to Success

    Whether it’s sports, career paths, or life in general, it’s the intangibles that hold the most significance.

    Qualities like character, resilience, adaptability, creativity, leadership, and problem-solving abilities are important intangibles when discussing personal or professional development.

    We often overlook these things.

    Being physically gifted only gets you halfway to becoming a professional athlete, if even that. The same applies to other areas of life as well. When we see someone successful in their particular field, know that they possess many intangibles that brought them there.

    So, don’t get too caught up in all the measurable things in life. Ensure you are well-rounded and continuously work on improving every aspect.

  • Learning From All

    People often say, “Never take advice from someone you’re doing better than” or “Don’t take advice from people who aren’t where you want to be in life,” or something along those lines. Although I understand the message, I don’t fully agree.

    Just because someone is doing better than you or pursuing something you aspire to do doesn’t mean the advice they give you will be good. Similarly, just because you’re doing better than someone or they’re in an unfortunate situation doesn’t mean they can’t provide valuable advice or life lessons.

    You can learn from anyone, regardless of their situation. At the very least, you can learn what not to do.

  • Mastering the Monkey’s Grip

    Truth is, you may always have that monkey on your back.

    It’s about getting stronger, so you can bear the monkey on your back more easily. It’s about knowing your triggers, recognizing when you may be in a weak moment, and finding things that will help combat your cravings, addictions, and proclivities.

    The monkey on your back only wants you to think in the moment. Think a few steps into the future. How will this next move affect you in the future? What decision will make you the happiest in the long run? What would your future self want you to do in the current moment?

    Remember that the monkey is on your back; you’re not on the monkey’s back. That means you have the ultimate power.

    We have dominion over everything. Make sure you use that power. Don’t let that monkey on your back have the power. Let it stay on your back and show it who’s really in control.

  • Actions Speak Louder

    “Show, don’t tell”

    It’s a storytelling principle that means a writer should use actions, dialogue, and sensory details to let the audience experience the story instead of just stating information.

    When we show a story instead of telling it, it makes the audience feel involved and helps them understand and remember it better.

    The same applies to life – we should show, not tell.

    Instead of just talking about our values, beliefs, or intentions, we can demonstrate them through our actions, behavior, and choices, allowing others to experience and understand who we are.

    Nobody wants to hear about what you plan to do or want to do. Show, don’t tell.

  • Nurturing Growth Together

    Growth is always a good thing and is often necessary to reach certain goals and go places in life. Growing apart from certain people is sometimes necessary and often encouraged.

    I don’t think that just because you grow apart from someone, you have to intentionally get rid of them from your life, though. Perhaps you’re the person to help them grow as well, the same way others helped you grow. It’s kind of like paying it forward.

    You don’t have to stop talking to that friend or family member whom you’ve outgrown. Maybe you can influence them to do the same. The power of influence is real, and just as much as there’s a chance that they might negatively impact you, you may positively impact them. Depending on who it is, it’s worth the risk.

    It makes me think of Jesus and all the people He interacted with. He didn’t have to interact with a lot of them, but the fact that he did showed his character, and He was able to teach a lot of lessons by doing so.

    So, continue to grow naturally, but don’t be so quick to “grow apart” from those whom you love and care about. Instead, show them what’s possible. Be the positive influence in their lives.

  • Endless Learning: Embracing Growth

    Every day, I look at my baby, and I’m amazed at how much she’s growing and learning.

    I’m always eager to introduce her to something new and teach her valuable skills. She’s acquiring new words, learning how to roll over, crawl, and walk—everything.

    This leads me to reflect on everyone’s journey. Everything we do is learned. If you’re reading this right now, you learned how to read. If you understand the message I’m conveying, you have developed comprehension.

    Our morals, values, and even religious beliefs are all learned. Even our negative behaviors or mindsets are learned.

    The crucial thing is to never cease learning. We are all beginners in some aspects of life. There is no limit to what we can learn, and like babies, the more we learn, the better off we will be.

    Babies are granted grace when it comes to learning. A baby may not start crawling at eight months, but with time, they may crawl at ten months. We should extend this same grace to ourselves and others.

    I don’t mean tolerating non-negotiable things, but rather treating ourselves and others with the same love and patience we show babies. We should purposefully make daily efforts to learn something.

    In high school, we learn about six to seven subjects a day, and that doesn’t have to stop. The beauty of learning is that we can even relearn things.

    So, find an area where you feel like a novice and continue to learn and develop in that field.