Category: Random Thoughts

We are all who we are for reasons. We are shaped by a combination of things that have happened to us and choices we have made.

Sometimes, we are even unconsciously a certain way and don’t even realize it. It’s important to learn about yourself, though. Find out why you are a certain way. Why do you have the insecurities that you have? Why do you treat relationships a certain way? What makes you upset, etc.?

Reflect on your life and embrace all those things that have shaped who you are now. Listen to others who may see things in you that you may not see. Embrace your past and own it. Own your truth.

We all have testimonies. Remember, embracing your past and being true to yourself can empower you to make progress in your life and positively impact others.

Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is to simply become the best version of yourself.

Your words and advice may not inspire them, and your willingness to help may not have an impact either. However, if they can witness your transformation into something better, they might be motivated to do the same.

An interaction with me is not the same as it was 10 years ago. I might have treated you with less respect back then, and our discussions might have been different. However, now I strive to treat you with more respect and engage in different topics. I have also developed new and improved characteristics that may inevitably rub off on you.

Lately, I refrain from “casting my pearls.” I let the way I live my life carry the weight of my words. I don’t even try to market or ask others to read my blog posts; I simply post and go. If it’s meant for you to read it, you will. I just hope you can take something positive away from it. Even if you don’t, that’s fine. At the very least, you get to witness me consistently doing something I enjoy.

In the book I read, “Freakonomics,” it discussed how children who didn’t read during the summer returned to school with lower proficiency compared to their peers who did.

The study also revealed that these children experienced a widening achievement gap compared to their reading counterparts.

It’s a simple task with a significant impact on a child’s life, and I believe what’s good for the geese is good for the gander. If children should devote themselves to reading and learning during the summer, I feel that adults should also continue to read, learn, and grow throughout their lives, not just in the summer or during their time in school, such as college.

Just like the children, imagine how different we would be as individuals if we read more or actively pursued learning and mastery in our passions. We are all lifelong learners, but some choose to halt their progress at a certain point, while others perpetually strive to acquire knowledge. So, don’t stop.

You never have to accept something with which you’re not happy.

If you’re struggling to lose weight, consider trying a different approach. Don’t simply accept the current weight and resign yourself to it; believe that you can change.

If you’re unhappy in a relationship, seek to identify what needs to be altered to find happiness or consider ending the relationship.

If you aren’t content with your current life situation, make the necessary choices to create a new life.

Regardless of what aspect you wish to change, all it requires is belief, intentional actions, and consistency. Taking the easy way out is to simply accept things as they currently are.

Having a baby is amazing because it feels like a clean slate.

Your baby loves you unconditionally. They have no idea about your past and naturally love you for being their parent. They don’t ask for a resume to be their parent or perform a background check. They aren’t materialistic; it’s just pure love.

Conversely, the parents’ love for the baby is exactly the same. It’s a new and fresh life, in which you deeply love from day one. Both of you have clean slates. You can teach your kid anything and help them become anything they want to be.

I believe self-improvement is key because a child learns most from your actions. It’s important to try to eliminate your bad habits or anything you wouldn’t want your child to do. It’s truly the circle of life because your kids grow as you grow.

If you don’t grow, you can expect your child never to grow and develop in that area either. You already have a clean slate, so the best thing you can do for your child is to strive to be the best version of yourself.

Also, have patience with your child because many of the traits they need to fix and improve in life, they inherited from you.

Even if your relationship with your parents wasn’t good, that’s fine. Perhaps they never received the correct traits and nurturing from their parents, and so on. The good thing is you can break the cycle right now and show your children something different.

One should always compose oneself and watch one’s temper, but there are many times when it’s okay to be upset.

You might have righteous rage, which is feeling angry about unfairness or injustice and wanting to make things right.

Or you might be upset about something in your life. This could mean you’ve found something that you’re passionate about and would like to change.

That’s the key. The feeling of upset should lead to a positive change. So if you are upset about something, embrace it and use that energy to make a difference.

The other day, while scrolling on social media, I came across a video of a baby falling and bumping their head. The gist of the video was that depending on how the parents act, it decides how the baby will react to the situation. In the video, instead of reacting alarmed or super concerned when the baby hit their head, the parents reacted lightheartedly and laughed as if the small bump wasn’t much. The baby, in return, laughed and did not cry at all.

Yesterday, I had a similar situation. My baby rolled from her stomach to her back, something we have been practicing for a while and encouraging her to do. It was a rough roll, and she kind of bumped into a few toys and other things surrounding her. Instead of reacting all alarmed and frightened, my wife and I clapped and congratulated my baby for rolling over. She, in return, smiled, and you could tell she was proud of herself. Had we reacted differently, she may have cried.

The same goes for us and how we live life. We might experience a few bumps and bruises along the way on our journey of life. We may experience shortcomings or even witness someone experience some kind of shortcoming or “bump” their head. It’s how we respond to those situations that matters the most. It’s key to keep a positive attitude. We can’t change what happened, but we can decide how we respond. How we respond decides how we learn and move on from that situation.

The same goes for when we are supporting others. It’s crucial to make sure our response to others’ situations is positive and supportive. Many parents need this reminder when dealing with their kids who are now young adults or adults. You should want the best for your kid, and of course, you never want anything bad to happen. But when problems do arise, make sure you are supporting them in a productive way that will give them confidence to continue pushing in life. Also, provide a sense of security so that when the next problem arises, they feel comfortable coming to you again for help and guidance.

It is crucial to strive for self-integration, where your thoughts, actions, and words align cohesively.

When your beliefs, intentions, and actions synchronize, you present a more authentic version of yourself. Inconsistencies in these areas can lead to problems.

Personally, when my actions don’t match my words, I feel uneasy. The same applies when my thoughts and actions aren’t in harmony. I observe others in the same way, checking if their thoughts, words, and actions align when something feels off.

In sports, when a player takes shortcuts or doesn’t give their full potential, the common advice is, “You’re only cheating yourself.” While it may sound cliché, it is indeed true. Cheating yourself in sports and training hinders progress and potential for growth.

This principle extends to life as well. When your words and actions aren’t aligned, or when you pretend they are, you’re only cheating yourself. Stay true to yourself and focus on fully integrating your thoughts, words, and actions. It is possible.